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By Corrin Voeller, Couples Therapist | St. Louis Park, Minnesota Serving St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley & Minneapolis When your spouse tells you they want a divorce — and you absolutely, definitively, with-your-whole-heart do not  — it triggers one of the most painful emotional spirals a person can experience. Your mind races: “This came out of nowhere.”“How do I fix this?”“I can’t lose them.”“What do I do?” Let me start with this: Feeling sh

By Corrin Voeller, Couples Therapist | St. Louis Park, Minnesota Serving St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley & Minneapolis Let’s just call it out: Most men don’t avoid therapy because they’re “emotionally unavailable.”They avoid therapy because: Talking about feelings sounds awkward They weren’t taught how to do it They’re afraid they’ll look stupid, weak, or wrong They think the therapist will take their partner’s side They believe therapy means

By Corrin Voeller, Couples Therapist | St. Louis Park, Minnesota Serving St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley & Minneapolis There are moments in life that hit like a punch to the gut.Hearing your spouse say “I want a divorce”  is one of them. Your body goes cold.Your brain goes fuzzy.Your heart drops to your stomach.You don’t know whether to cry, yell, fix it, or freeze. Let me say this clearly: You are not crazy.You are not a failure.And this mo

By Corrin Voeller, Couples Therapist | St. Louis Park, Minnesota Serving St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley & Minneapolis If you’re reading this, you’re probably living in one of the most painful emotional spaces a person can occupy: You don’t know whether to stay in your marriage or end it. You ’ve been replaying conversations.Googling things at 2 AM.Talking in circles with friends.Crying in the shower.Getting hit with waves of hope one day and

By Corrin Voeller, Marriage & Family Therapist | St. Louis Park, Minnesota Serving St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley & Minneapolis If you’re a woman going through a divorce — especially one you didn’t plan, didn’t expect, or didn’t feel fully ready for — you’ve probably already noticed something: Your friends can love you, hype you up, take you out, pour wine, and tell you you’re amazing…but they can’t help you rebuild your identity or stop repe

By Corrin Voeller, Couples Therapist | St. Louis Park, Minnesota Serving St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley & Minneapolis When Alex  and Jordan  reached out to me, the first thing they said was: “We don’t even know what kind of counseling we’re supposed to do. We just know something needs to change.” They looked exhausted — the kind of exhausted only a relationship in transition can create. And their question?The one you might be wondering, too?

By Corrin Voeller, Couples Therapist | St. Louis Park, Minnesota Serving St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley & Minneapolis If you’re reading this, you’re probably trying to figure out what type of couples therapy is right for you. And if you’ve Googled anything lately, you already know:It’s confusing out there. “Do we do couples counseling?”“Are we supposed to start with discernment counseling?”“Is there a version where we get a lot done in one da

By Corrin Voeller, Couples Therapist | St. Louis Park, Minnesota Serving St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley & Minneapolis Let’s be brutally honest:Holiday breaks from school and childcare are the Olympics of marriage cooperation. Your kids are home.Your routine is destroyed.Your work schedule doesn’t magically go away.Somebody still has to make food.Somebody still has to keep the house running.And both of you are trying really hard not to resent

By Corrin Voeller, Couples Therapist | St. Louis Park, Minnesota Serving St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley & Minneapolis Thanksgiving is supposed to be about gratitude, mashed potatoes, and pretending you didn’t notice your uncle double-dip the carrot stick. But for many couples? Thanksgiving is stress in a casserole dish. Between family drama, passive-aggressive comments, political landmines, weird parenting advice from relatives who haven’t ha

By Corrin Voeller, Couples Therapist | St. Louis Park, Minnesota Serving St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley & Minneapolis Let’s be honest:The holidays are not “the most wonderful time of the year” for most couples.They’re the most overstimulating, overcommitted, overscheduled, emotionally flooded time of the year. Between: figuring out whose family you’re seeing (and whose you’re avoiding) budgeting for gifts navigating kids’ emotional roller coa

By Corrin Voeller, Couples Therapist | St. Louis Park, Minnesota Serving St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley & Minneapolis Let’s be honest:Most couples don’t start therapy because everything is falling apart.A lot of couples start because they want things to feel better  — more connected, less tense, more “us” and less “two exhausted coworkers who live together.” If you’re here because you want to improve your marriage?Good.That’s healthy. It’s br

Serving St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley & Minneapolis Let’s cut to the chase:If you’re Googling “my wife wants a divorce but I don’t”  at 2:00 AM with your stomach in your throat, you’re not alone.This is one of the most common calls I get in my St. Louis Park couples counseling practice — and it’s usually coming from the partner who feels blindsided, terrified, and desperate not to lose the person they love. And if that’s you?Take a breath. Y

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