You’re Going Through a Divorce — You Need More Than a Friend. You Need Someone Who Helps You Break Patterns and Reclaim Your Identity.

By Corrin Voeller, Marriage & Family Therapist | St. Louis Park, MinnesotaServing St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley & Minneapolis

If you’re a woman going through a divorce — especially one you didn’t plan, didn’t expect, or didn’t feel fully ready for — you’ve probably already noticed something:

Your friends can love you, hype you up, take you out, pour wine, and tell you you’re amazing…but they can’t help you rebuild your identity or stop repeating the same patterns.

You need someone who sees the whole picture.Someone who holds you accountable.Someone who helps you slow down, process, rebuild, and step into the version of yourself you lost track of.

Divorce isn’t just paperwork.It’s a psychological demolition and reconstruction.

And if you’re reading this because you know you need more than emotional cheerleading?Good.That awareness is the beginning of your healing.

The Truth No One Says Out Loud: Divorce Scrambles Your Identity

Divorce feels like:

• losing a role you’ve held for years

• grieving someone who is still alive

• being angry and sad at the same time

• having moments of empowerment followed by panic

• questioning everything — including your gut

• remembering pieces of yourself you forgot existed

• realizing how many patterns you tolerated because it felt easier

It’s big.It’s heavy.And it’s not something you should (or can) navigate alone.

Because even the strongest women need support when their life cracks open.

Your Friends Love You — but They’re Not Your Therapist

Your friends mean well.They really do.But let’s be honest:

• They’re biased.

• They take your side even when you’re wrong.

• They hype you up but can’t help you slow down.

• They’ll say, “He’s the worst!” when what you actually need is, “Let’s understand why you overlooked that behavior for so long.”

• They don’t know how to help you break patterns.

• They’re exhausted too (life is a lot).

• They don’t have a plan for your healing — they just want to help you feel better.

You don’t need someone who only cheers.You need someone who challenges.Someone who helps you see what needs to change so you don’t repeat the same relational story with a different character.

You Need a Therapist Who Knows Divorce — Not Just “General Life Stress”

Working with women in divorce is one of my specialties because I understand the layers:

• emotional

• psychological

• identity-based

• practical

• relational

• pattern-driven

You’re not just separating from a person.You’re separating from:

• a version of yourself

• habits

• relational roles

• conditioning

• expectations

• survival strategies

• people-pleasing patterns

• old wounds that shaped your choices

Therapy helps you rebuild from the inside out.

Not in a “journal about your feelings and hope for the best” way.In a structured, empowering, “let’s break the cycle” way.

This Is the Part of Divorce No One Prepares You For:

Reclaiming your identity is the real work.

After a divorce, you might ask:

• Who am I when I’m not someone’s wife?

• Who am I when I’m not holding everything together?

• Who am I when I’m not over-functioning?

• What do I want?

• What no longer fits me?

• What red flags did I ignore?

• Why did I tolerate certain behaviors?

• What patterns do I need to break so my next chapter doesn’t repeat the last one?

This is where therapy becomes your anchor.

What Divorce Counseling Looks Like with Me

This is not:

❌ sitting on a couch crying about the past❌ wallowing❌ “just give it time” therapy❌ vague advice❌ shame-based confrontation❌ “let me judge your choices” sessions

This IS:

✔ breaking cycles✔ identifying your relational patterns✔ understanding why you choose who you choose✔ strengthening your boundaries✔ rebuilding your identity✔ processing grief in a healthy way✔ untangling guilt✔ healing emotional wounds you’ve carried for years✔ making sure you don’t repeat the same story✔ stepping into your power again

This is the work women say is the most life-changing — because it’s not about your ex.It’s about you.

What You Deserve After a Divorce

You deserve to feel:

• clear

• grounded

• empowered

• connected to yourself

• confident in your boundaries

• capable of choosing differently

• worthy of a healthy relationship

• emotionally regulated

• strong

• free

You deserve to stop shrinking.Stop overgiving.Stop guessing who you are.Stop letting other people’s needs be louder than your own.

Divorce can be the end of something.But it can also be the beginning of a version of you that is finally awake.

Serving Women Across St. Louis Park + Surrounding Areas

I support women navigating divorce from:St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley, and Minneapolis.

If you’re ready to do more than survive — if you’re ready to rebuild — you’re exactly who I help.

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone — Start Your Work Today

If you’re ready for support that’s deeper than friendship, stronger than venting, and more transformative than “giving it time,” I’d love to work with you.

📌 Book a consultation with me to get started.Or email corrinvoeller@gmail.com if you're interested in a deeper therapeutic reset through a one-day intensive.

You’re not losing yourself.You’re meeting yourself again.Let’s do it intentionally.