Men Think Therapy Is Awkward — Here’s Why It’s Actually Way Easier Than You Expect (Especially With Me)

By Corrin Voeller, Couples Therapist | St. Louis Park, MinnesotaServing St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley & Minneapolis

Let’s just call it out:

Most men don’t avoid therapy because they’re “emotionally unavailable.”They avoid therapy because:

1. Talking about feelings sounds awkward

2. They weren’t taught how to do it

3. They’re afraid they’ll look stupid, weak, or wrong

4. They think the therapist will take their partner’s side

5. They believe therapy means sitting on a couch being judged by someone who doesn’t care

If that’s you?Totally normal.You’re not broken — you were raised in a system that didn’t teach emotional vocabulary, emotional regulation, or emotional communication.

And now you’re an adult trying to fix relationship problems using tools no one gave you.

That’s not failure.That’s math.

But here’s the good news:

Therapy with me doesn’t look like what you think therapy is.

**“But Talking About My Feelings Is Awkward.”

Yeah… That’s Because No One Taught You How.**

Men are conditioned to talk in:

• facts

• solutions

• sarcasm

• avoidance humor

• logistics

• brief statements that translate to entire emotional experiences

When a man says:

“I’m fine.”

That can actually mean:“I’m overwhelmed and don’t know how to say it without sounding dramatic.”

When a man says:

“We fight too much.”

That might mean:“I'm scared she’s pulling away but I don’t know how to say that without sounding needy.”

When a man says:

“I don’t know.”

It often means:“I don't have the emotional translation tools for what I’m feeling.”

Men feel — deeply.They just weren’t taught how to put it into words.

That’s literally where I come in.

I Don’t Expect You to Name Your Feelings — I Help You Decode Them

I am trained in decoding men’s communication patterns.You don’t have to walk in knowing how to articulate things perfectly.

You can talk the way you naturally talk, and I’ll help translate:

• what you’re saying

• what you’re trying to say

• what you’re feeling

• what matters to you

• what’s getting in the way

Think of it like emotional closed-captioning.You talk.I help you understand what’s underneath it.No judgment. No shame. No “just open up more” pressure.

You’re not failing in therapy because you can’t “do feelings” the way your partner does.You just weren’t taught — and I don’t expect you to come in fully trained.

That’s my job.

**Therapy Isn’t Just Paying Someone to Nod and Say “Mhm.”

We’re Actually Invested in Helping You Get Better.**

Men often say:

“Why would I pay someone just to listen?”

Because that’s not what therapy is.

Therapy is not:

❌ someone who doesn’t care❌ someone silently watching you suffer❌ someone judging you❌ someone letting your marriage crumble because they’re “neutral”

Let me tell you the honest truth:

If I don’t help you, that’s bad for my business.

Therapists want you to get better because:

1. We genuinely care

2. We want you to feel better

3. We want your relationship to improve

4. And yes — if we help you, you’ll tell people

5. And if we don’t? You’ll tell people that too

This is no different than hiring a plumber:

• You want someone who can fix the problem

• You want someone who knows what they’re doing

• You want someone who doesn’t talk down to you

• And if they mess up your plumbing, you’re not recommending them to anyone

Therapy is the same — except instead of pipes, we’re dealing with communication, emotions, relationships, and identity.

A good therapist (hi, that’s me) has a stake in helping you actually improve.

Therapy for Men Helps You Understand the Stuff You Weren’t Taught

Men are often taught:

• don’t cry

• don’t talk about it

• don’t show weakness

• fix it yourself

• prioritize logic over emotion

• don’t ask for help

• don’t look soft

• be strong

• be calm

• be “fine”

But no one teaches:

• how to handle conflict

• how to stay regulated under stress

• how to repair after an argument

• how to communicate without shutting down

• how to express frustration without exploding

• how to understand your partner’s emotional world

• how to ask for what you need

• how to feel safe being vulnerable

• how to manage the weight you carry but never talk about

Therapy is where you learn those things.

Not because you’re broken.But because you’re human — and you deserve support, too.

Why Men Actually End Up Liking Therapy With Me

Once men start working with me, they usually say things like:

• “This isn’t what I expected.”

• “You explain things in a way that finally makes sense.”

• “You’re not judging me.”

• “You’re not taking her side.”

• “This actually feels helpful.”

• “I didn’t know I needed this.”

Because therapy with me isn’t about forcing you to be “emotional.”It’s about helping you understand yourself and your relationship better — using the language you already speak.

You don’t need to be good at therapy to start.You just need to show up as you are.

Serving Men in St. Louis Park + Surrounding Suburbs

I work with men from:

St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley, and Minneapolis.

Whether you’re working through relationship stress, emotional overload, conflict, ADHD dynamics, or just trying not to screw up the thing you love most — I can help.

If You’re a Man Who Thinks Therapy Will Be Awkward — You’re Exactly Who I Work Best With

You don’t have to talk like a therapist.You don’t have to know “feeling words.”You don’t have to be perfect at communication.You don’t have to spill your guts on day one.

You just have to walk in the door.

📌 Book a consultation with me today.Let me show you how therapy can actually make sense — and make a difference.

You weren’t taught this stuff.But you can learn it now — without shame, without awkwardness, and without doing it alone.