Jeff moved out about 6 months ago.  He got a small apartment closer to work.  Thank god we can afford this, he thought.  At first, it was a relief to be out of the house.  He and Kat argued all the time and about the dumbest of things.  It felt like Kat would criticize him for everything.  At one point, even the way he breathed! Jeff was worried how all the arguing would affect the kids. So he thought he was doing the right thing.  He didn’t want to get divorced, but it seemed like there was no other choice.  They just could not get it figured out.

 

So yeah, at first it was a relief to be out of the house. Jeff felt like he could finally be himself again without all of the constant stress and arguing. But that didn’t last long.  He would be sitting on the couch at night watching tv and the deepest, most gut-wrenching feeling of sadness and loneliness would wash over him out of nowhere.  He would call to talk to the kids but they didn’t seem to care.  Instead of wanting to really talk to him, they would complain about something their brother did or tell him how they were in the middle of playing when their mom made them get on the phone. He’d hang up, wishing he hadn’t even called. 

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Going to sleep at night was the worst part.  He would be laying there trying to fall asleep and then the most random memory of Kat would pop in his brain.  Her laugh was infectious.  It seemed like every memory was of a time when she was laughing hard.  It was his own personal pain reel, running through his mind at night.  Memory after memory of Kat’s crazy, almost maniacal laugh.  He realized he missed her.  This wasn’t just feeling lonely. This was him missing just being in her presence. Seeing her laugh. Being the one to make her laugh. 

 

But how the hell can he go back now?  After everything they’ve said and done.  He has a freakin’ apartment now! And they’ve already put the kids through hell.  Won’t this just confuse them even more?  And what if they try again and it doesn’t work.  They have to put the kids through him moving out again?  Jeff really wants to figure out his marriage, but these types of thoughts fly through his mind whenever he thinks about asking Kat to give it a try. 

 

There is good news.

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A lot of people have been in the position Jeff has been in. They’ve taken steps towards divorce but they want to work on their marriage instead.  With the right help, it’s possible.  A strong plan and the solid guidance is the key element to repairing your relationship after moving towards divorce. 

 

If this is your goal, call me today and let’s discuss what’s happening and I can explain your options.  There is hope and I’m glad you are here.