Want to Improve Your Marriage? Here’s the Real Work (It’s Not What Instagram Told You)

By Corrin Voeller, Couples Therapist | St. Louis Park, Minnesota

Serving St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley & Minneapolis

Let’s be honest:Most couples don’t start therapy because everything is falling apart.A lot of couples start because they want things to feel better — more connected, less tense, more “us” and less “two exhausted coworkers who live together.”

If you’re here because you want to improve your marriage?Good.That’s healthy. It’s brave. And frankly, more couples should do it before they hit the “oh crap, are we going to make it?” phase.

And here’s the good news: Improvement is absolutely possible.You just need the right kind of support — not the fluffy Hallmark advice you’ve been trying.

📌 Before we dive in: If you already know you’re ready for help, you can book a consult with me right now or reach out at corrinvoeller@gmail.com for day-long intensive options.

Why Couples Get Stuck (Even When They Love Each Other)

Let me normalize something:Most couples who walk into my St. Louis Park office truly love each other. But love alone doesn’t magically fix:

• communication patterns that got weird over time

• resentment that no one addressed

• ADHD relationship dynamics

• being touched-out and exhausted from parenting

• feeling like you’re always the one keeping track of everything

• not feeling seen or appreciated

• or a general sense of drifting

Nothing is “wrong” with you if your marriage isn’t Pinterest-perfect.You’re human. Humans get overwhelmed, irritated, bored, overstimulated, and disconnected.

Marriage isn’t a self-cleaning oven.You have to maintain it or it starts to smoke.

What Couples Think Marriage Counseling Is (And Why They're Wrong)

A lot of couples think:

“Therapy is where we go to air our grievances and someone decides who’s right.”

Absolutely not.

My couples counseling is collaborative, deep, practical, and honest.No one gets blamed.No one gets shamed.No one gets ambushed in front of the room.

My job is to teach you both how to talk, listen, repair, and reconnect in a way that lasts longer than the 50 minutes you sit on my couch.

If you’re willing to show up, be honest, and try — your relationship can shift.Not through perfection, but through actual tools and insight.

What Improving a Marriage Really Takes

Here’s the not-sexy truth no influencer wants to tell you:

Improving your marriage takes:

• self-awareness

• vulnerability (the real kind, not the Instagram-quote kind)

• learning new skills (yes, skills — no one is born knowing how to be a great partner)

• repairing hurt instead of ignoring it

• accountability

• curiosity

• and time

You don’t fix a marriage by wishing it would magically “go back to how it used to be.”You fix it by building a new version that feels better than what you had before.

And couples counseling gives you the roadmap to do exactly that.

📌 Curious what that might look like for your relationship? Book a consult or email me about day-long intensives at corrinvoeller@gmail.com.

The Couples Who Do Best in Counseling Usually Say Things Like:

• “We’re not falling apart… but we’re not thriving.”

• “I want to feel close again.”

• “We keep having the same argument on repeat.”

• “I’m tired of feeling disconnected.”

• “We’ve drifted and want back in.”

• “Parenting has kicked our ass.”

• “We love each other but we’ve lost our spark.”

• “We want to get ahead of bigger problems.”

If that sounds like you, you’re in the sweet spot.Couples who come in before crisis hits usually see progress faster and more easily.

Why My Approach Works (Especially for Real Humans, Not Perfect Ones)

I don’t do:❌ emotional coddling❌ passive “so how does that make you feel?” therapy❌ long-winded lectures❌ vaguely nodding in your direction for 45 minutes

I do:✔ direct but warm feedback✔ humor to break tension✔ no-bullsh*t clarity✔ concrete tools you can use that same day✔ real conversations, not rehearsed scripts✔ helping both partners feel supported, not ganged up on

And just so you know — I work really well with men who are skeptical, nervous, or worried they’re about to be blamed for everything.You won’t be shamed, scolded, or humiliated on my couch.You’ll be understood — and asked to show up in ways that actually help your relationship.

Serving St. Louis Park + All the Nearby Relationship Hotspots

I work with couples from:St. Louis Park, Edina, Minnetonka, Wayzata, Orono, Golden Valley, and Minneapolis.

These cities are full of busy, burnt-out, high-demand professionals who love each other but don’t always know how to slow down and reconnect.

If you want things to feel better — more teamwork, more warmth, more intimacy, more “we’re actually in this together” — I’d love to help.

Your Marriage Can Get Better (You Just Need the Right Support)

If your marriage feels off, tense, disconnected, or stuck — don’t wait for things to implode.

You deserve support now.You deserve connection now.You deserve a relationship that actually feels good to live in.

📌 Book a consult with me today to get started.Or if you want a focused, powerful reset, email me at corrinvoeller@gmail.com to ask about my day-long couples intensive.

You don’t have to struggle alone.And your marriage doesn’t have to stay stuck.Let’s make it better — together.