Couples Counseling Isn’t About Talking in Circles — It’s About Getting Sh*t Done

If you think couples counseling is just two people sitting on a couch rehashing the same fight for the millionth time while the therapist nods politely… yeah, hard pass. That’s not how I work.

In my office in St. Louis Park, right here in the Twin Cities, couples counseling is about results. It’s about breaking the same damn fight cycle, learning how to actually hear each other, and figuring out whether this relationship is something you want to keep building—or something you need to call time on.

What Couples Counseling Really Looks Like

Here’s what happens in my sessions:

• We get right to the point. I’m not going to let you spend 45 minutes bickering about who left the laundry in the washer.

• We dig into the patterns. Because it’s never just about the laundry—it’s about how you two handle (or don’t handle) stress, conflict, and unmet needs.

• We build tools you can actually use outside the office. Not therapist-y jargon, not cheesy “communication exercises.” Real strategies that fit into your real life.

• And if one (or both) of you is half-checked out? That’s where discernment counseling comes in. I’ve helped hundreds of couples figure out whether to stay in the work—or step out with clarity.

The Hard Truth About Couples Counseling

A lot of people wait way too long to get help. By the time they show up, resentment has built up like a nasty mold in the basement. But here’s the thing: even then, change is possible—if both people are willing to show up and get honest.

I’ll also tell you straight: if one of you is here just to prove the other person wrong, counseling won’t work. But if you’re ready to stop fighting the same fight and start actually building something different, then hell yes, we can make progress.

Why Do This in St. Louis Park?

The Twin Cities are full of couples juggling careers, kids, commutes, and the pressure of being “perfectly put together.” Behind closed doors? So many of you are barely holding it together. Therapy gives you a place to put down the mask and do the work.

Bottom Line

Couples counseling isn’t about endless talking. It’s about clarity, tools, and action. Whether you’re trying to repair your marriage or decide if it’s time to let go, I’ll help you stop spinning and start moving.

If you’re in St. Louis Park, Minneapolis, or anywhere in the Twin Cities, and your relationship feels stuck, reach out. It doesn’t have to stay this way.